"Michell's Weekly Pearl"...(What Should I Do)

Hi everyone! Welcome to another edition of  "Michell's Weekly Pearl", where I seek Godly wisdom to offer encouragement. If this is your first time visiting, let me tell you a little about my advice series. This is where you can ask me anything(within reason) on marriage, women's issues, family matters, relationships, parenting, homemaking, or life in general. If you want an honest, biblically based, to the point answer; email me your questions via prowessandpearls@gmail.com (please put "MWP" in the subject area). I'll post your question, along with my answer, anonymously. Easy as that! To read more post in this series, you can do so (HERE).

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Hi Michelle,

I've been dating a man for two years who claims he isn't a Christian and doesn't have any desire to be one. He simply does not believe in God. He's not a bad person and he respects my faith and my views towards Christianity. His views do not interfere or hinder my views for my love of our Savior, but I do wonder if this is pleasing to the Lord and if it's better for me and my relationship with God to end the relationship with me and this man?

Thanks!

Hi,

I want to first start off by saying that I can’t tell you what to do; it’s a decision you’ll have to make. It’s a very interesting question, in that I think within your heart of hearts you probably already know the answer. I say this, because as Believers, we know what the Word tells us about being unequally yoked in 2 Corinthians 6:14. God isn’t just telling us this for the sake of saying it, but He tells us this for our own protection. Remember, you’ve been bought with a price; Jesus shed His blood for you to be His own, not to share allegiance with someone who doesn't believe in Him. When we as Believers enter into any kind of covenant, it should be with those of like faith, if not there will be a time where compromising will come into play. Because you have not married him yet(which I’m assuming you’re thinking of doing), YOU must make the decision NOW as to what you’re willing to live with. You mentioned that he doesn’t interfere or hinder you and he respects your faith, however, there’s a big difference between being his girlfriend and being his wife. Once that happens, all bets are off. You then, as a Believer are required to be submitted to your husband. Who’s to say that his views won’t change, in that he may tell you that you can no longer worship God, etc?  There's a deeper aspect and purpose to marriage for Believers that can't be fulfilled if one of the parties is an unbeliever. Your situation is different from two people who are unbelievers when they get married and one party becomes a Believer after being married. In that situation, I do believe God graces the marriage when 1 Peter 3:1-2 is walked out. In your situation...you are aware of your partner's unbelief BEFOREHAND. You have to decide as to whether you’re willing to take that chance. It’s a decision you’ll have to make and must be willing to live with. There are consequences to every decision we make, whether good or bad. You may want to sit down with him and discuss your feelings, but; what you don’t want to do is try to change him(not saying that you have done this). It should be a decision he makes on his own, as salvation should never be forced on anyone as an ultimatum for someone staying. The beauty of salvation is that Jesus wanted us to CHOOSE Him as our Savior. As previously stated, whatever your decision is, it should be just that, “your decision”, because it’s your life. However, you must be willing to live with the consequences of the decision you make.  Hope this helps…have a wonderful day! Praying for you!

I’ve been married for over 24 years to my husband, a pastor. I’ve worked alongside him in ministry full-time for over 17 years. During that time, we've pioneered two ministries and I've established a women’s ministry(Women of Excellence). We have three adult children and a son-in-law.  My areas of specialty are family, marriage and women’s issues. Hopefully the (Godly)wisdom I’ve learned through my years of experience will lead you to and keep you on the road to doing you well!  As my husband always says...why spend your life going down a road you don't have to travel, when someone else has already learned the lesson and can show you how to avoid that path.  

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