Monday, April 7, 2014

Mastering YOU EUREKA moment(I'm baaack)

Ahhh...this feels good - writing on my blog again! You know it's been 41 days since I put finger to keyboard(concerning this space). 

While I was out, it dawned on me the last time I punched someone’s time card was when I was 4 months pregnant(18 years ago) with our youngest child. There's a reason for that - deep down inside I know I was never made to work for someone else or something else for that matter. It’s not in my blood or makeup.  My father has owned his own business (which he inherited from his father) since the day I came into this world 46 years ago.  My husband comes from the same background…generations of entrepreneurs. Stick with me, I'm going somewhere with this! I said all of that as a segue to what I really learned while I was on my blogging break.

I must admit, I haven’t visited this place since I signed off a little over a month ago. I won't felt good! I missed everyone -  but I didn’t miss blogging per say(well, at least everything that comes along with it). I didn’t miss freaking out when I couldn’t make my deadline(because I had writers block). I didn’t miss making sure I joined every blog hop in the bloggersphere to get new followers(who more than likely won’t ever come back). Well actually I stopped doing that months ago (I wanted to add it here to make my statement more profound) – we bloggers do that you know. Lol! Neither did I miss constantly checking my Google analytics, finding the latest SEO tricks of the trade, trying to get high page ranks, etc., etc. Lord knows that’s a job in itself and ain’t nobody got time for that…well at least not me! And for those of you who do it, do know I’m not knocking you. Do ya thing! More power to you! But for me, I realized that blogging was not my side hustle and probably will never be. I’ll be 46 years old next month. Why on earth would I become a slave to a blog? I mean really? I started to loathe it just like an employee would an employer who’s asking for more than they’re willing to give and not willing to compensate them for. Yep, I had gotten there y’all…hating MY BLOG! But how? This was my baby, the thing I started from scratch…from the ground up - that has my fingerprint and DNA all over it…and I hated it! Man, something had to change and change quickly

You see, while I was out, I went back to my purpose for blogging in the first place – to give advice to those who wanted it and to love on and encourage those who needed it. That’s it. Nothing more…nothing less. This blog is my ministry. Something my husband and I have been doing full time for over 18 years now. And something we see ourselves doing until the Lord calls us Home. That my friends, is where my joy lies! Helping, encouraging, loving on and being a blessing to anyone who wants it. Yep, that’s MY happy! And when it’s time for me to hang my hat up on this blogging thing…I’ll know it and I’ll do it. Until then, this is a place where all my friends can come to and know what you’re going to get. No pretense and no “you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours”. Nope, none of that here. Just a genuine desire to be a blessing and to make a God connection with those I may never see in person, but have grown to love and appreciate nonetheless. 

Yeah, I might have missed out on all the giveaways, opportunities to gain more followers and grow my social media base, but you know…it really doesn’t matter. Life is so good to me right now and I've got so much on my plate to even care! Sure, I may do some giveaways, grow my social media following and heck even join a few blog hops here and there - however, it won’t be because I HAVE to…it’ll be because I WANT to! And when it's time for me to take another break(which may be once a month now, lol) then I will. And if my FB fan page stays at 910(give or take), that’s fine too. If it surpasses the 1000 mark, hey I’ll take that also!! Don't get me wrong, I am sooo appreciative of the growth of my blog, considering the effort -or lack thereof- I've put into it. For that my wonderful friends, I owe YOU a BIG thank you! Who knows, “Prowess and Pearls” could one day become a household name(hey, whatcha laughin’ at…it could happen you know)!! But, I’m not going to jump through hoops and pull teeth to get there. People will follow me and come visit me because they want to and they genuinely like me and like what I have to say. And that my friends, makes this blogging thing a breeze, makes it easy as breathing air… 

And I'll do it at my own pace, because this space the vision God gave me!

The Pulliam household has been doing this thing called "life", BIG these past few months. A few years back, I couldn't have imagined having this much fun, as I dreaded this upcoming season in my life(my second half of living). Having spent my entire adulthood raising babies, taking care of my family and working in ministry full-time, I had a hard time seeing exactly what my future held once the kids were grown and my responsibilities as "household manager", slowly declined. I can truly say though, that my husband and I are having more fun NOW living than we've had our entire lives! No slight to our kids, because I LOVED my season of raising and nurturing them! But now they are embarking on doing what their dad and I did what seemed liked eons ago - carving their own futures, mapping out their lives and starting their own families. And that is all a mother wants for her babies(well, aside from being happy and healthy and safe from hurt, harm and danger) to name a few! :-) I guess the older you get, the more wisdom you acquire. With that acquired wisdom comes the acceptance and appreciation of the life that's been handed to us. With that acceptance and appreciation comes the ability to make of it more than what you'd ever imagine!

So I encourage ALL of you my friends…go back to the vision God gave you for your blog, your first love of why you started blogging in the first place. Because you love to write, because you love sharing and because you love giving advice to make someone’s life better. If you follow everyone else's lead and not your own...then how unique are you? If you find yourself in the corner pulling your hair out and fretting over this blogging may want to re-evaluate why you got into it in the first place. This goes for anything in your life!  I admonish you to do what you love, but most importantly…love what you do! If you’re not experiencing either of the two…go back to the drawing board and recreate the plan! Love you  and I’m so glad to back!

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Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Farewell...well, at least for now

Hey my sweet blogging friends! Some of you have probably wondered where I’ve been…I assure you I’m still alive! :-)

I want to first start off by saying how much I appreciate each and every one of you! Back in January I mentioned the thought of hanging up my blogging hat for good, but decided not to do that...and I'm glad I did! But, I’ve found myself overwhelmed with life yet again…nothing bad at all. As a matter of fact, it's great awesome, as a result...I've got a full plate(not that I'm complaining)!! The months of March, April and May have always been busy months for our family, but this year…we've got many irons in the fire.

Monday, February 17, 2014

Mastering YOU Monday...parenting 101

I was saying to myself just last week how I should post some more about parenting. Would you know, I was watching "Morning Joe" this morning - well actually I was sleeping in and my husband came into the bedroom to tell me to turn the t.v. to "MJ". Anywho, I was intrigued by their guest Jennifer Senior, author of "All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood". Obviously, I've had my head in the sand when it came to this book as I

Monday, February 10, 2014

Mastering YOU much is too much?

I know I'm a week late, but how many of you watched the final episode of "The Biggest Loser" last week? If you didn't, I don't know how you missed it... it was plastered all over the news last week. Anywho, the finale is what prompted this week's "Mastering YOU Monday" post. BTW...Am I the ONLY person out there who watches the "BL" so I don't feel guilty about eating a big plate of food? Justifying my overindulgence by saying in the back of my mind..."oh, I'll never get THAT big"!

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Doing YOU WELL Wednesday #48 and happy birthday mommy

an encouragement link up
Happy Wednesday everyone! Hope your week has been wonderful! Today's "DYWW" is dedicated to my lovely mother Mary Lee Brown Flemming, who would have celebrated her 71st birthday today! I sure do miss that lady!! Here's a post I wrote last year commemorating what would have been her 70th birthday. You can read "A Legacy of Grace" HERE. For those of you who know me, y'all know that I write letters to my mommy all the time, lol! 

I'm "doing well" because I can finally celebrate my mother's life without getting sad. I've been blessed with

Monday, February 3, 2014

Mastering YOU Monday...mind over matter

comparing natural birth to an epidural birth
Okay, so my post today was inspired by a conversation I had with my daughter the other day...out of all things...childbirth, IKR! Quite ironic, considering she's not planning on giving us grand kids anytime soon. But I'll save that for another post.

Not quite sure how the conversation started, but I'm glad it did, because I wanted to throw my two cents into the bucket

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Doing YOU WELL Wednesday #47 and a snow day

encouragement link up and a snow day
Now you know I couldn't pass up on the "2014 Southern Winter Snow storm/Blizzard/Ice storm" bandwagon right!? Lol! Seriously, hope none of you got stuck, stranded or grounded like so many I know in the Atlanta area...horror stories!

We South Carolinians had it pretty good though. Our snow didn't arrive until around 8 or 9pm Tuesday evening. But we had to wait until morning to get a good look at it and boy was it beautiful! What I love about the snow here in the south as opposed to snow in the north(where I lived for about 8 years AND I don't miss

Monday, January 27, 2014

Mastering YOU Monday...lessons I've learned

lessons learned using Godly wisdom throughout my marriage
As some of you may know, my husband and I just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary! If you asked me 25 years ago where I would be today…I couldn’t promise you I’d be here.  Why? Because our marriage was definitely NOT the conventional one! 

You see, I met my husband on Oct 14, 1988, the first month really didn’t count(because, as he puts it, I detested him), lol. However, I  have a different opinion!

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Doing YOU WELL Wednesday #46 and a few changes

encouragement link up and introduction of my new interior decorating pageHi everyone!! Did I throw you off with my new schedule! For anyone who didn't know, the "DYWW" link-up will now go live by 9:30pm EST on Wednesdays! 

If you didn't enter the $850 cash giveaway...there's still time. You can enter HERE!!

What's new on the blog you asks?

Monday, January 20, 2014

Mastering YOU Monday...when life happens

using Godly wisdom and growing your faith
When life throws us a curve ball and discouragement, hopelessness or depression hits -and don’t let the world fool you- WE ALL have gotten bit by that bug before.! When they hit, like the water in the throat of a drowning swimmer out in the waters wailing for his life…we can do one of two things. Let the waters of the residue of this life overtake us, or fight with all we have until that “out of nowhere” rescuer comes to our aid. At those moments we have to make a split decision as to what