"Michell's Weekly Pearl"...(Can't Believe This is Happening)

Hi everyone! Thanks for joining me for another edition of  "Michell's Weekly Pearl", where I seek Godly wisdom to offer encouragement. If this is your first time visiting, let me tell you a little about my advice series. This is where you can ask me anything on marriage, women's issues, family matters, relationships, parenting, homemaking, or life in general. If you want an honest, biblically based, to the point answer; email me your questions via prowessandpearls@gmail.com (please put "MWP" in the subject area). I'll post your question, along with my answer, anonymously. Easy as that! To read all the questions and answers in this series, you can do so (HERE). 

Keep sending those questions in ladies!!! In the meantime, read on to see what "Can't Believe This is Happening" asked...

I sure hope you can help me with this one Michell. I’m 30 something years old. My husband and I have three kids. I’ve been ministering to women for about seven years now.  My ministry just recently took off. I’ve been traveling more with speaking engagements and have met some amazing women along the way. My problem is this, because I’ve been gone a lot, my husband has been caring for the kids more and now he wants me to stop, cold turkey! I just don’t think that’s fair. Right now I’m angry, hurt and confused and can’t believe he would ask me to do that. What should I do?

Wow, that’s a loaded question! First and foremost, I’m assuming because you have a ministry, you’re connected to a local church. If so, have you consulted your pastor or spiritual leader? If not, I suggest that you do so. I can understand your hurt and confusion, but you may not like my answer. Because your husband is the spiritual head of your household, you should take a minute, breath and re-evaluate. Contrary to what most people believe, OUR families and homes are our FIRST ministries! If those are lacking, then honestly we shouldn't be ministering to anyone else. As my husband always teaches, the anointing only flows when there is order! I pose this question…if you were ministering to someone and they asked you the same question, what would be your answer? Would you tell them to keep at it, because "of course" it was from God, so it must be correct, right? Remember, He gives us assignments to do, but He always expects us to come back to Him to see how to carry out the plan. If you continue to minister without considering your husband’s feelings, then you’ve taken on a rebellious spirit. The Bible tells us that rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, in 1 Samuel 15:23(part a). That’s an area that we as believers want to stay far away from. If this is something you and your husband have never sat down to discuss and he looked up one day and you were traveling all over the country-side and neglecting the family, then he has every right to be frustrated. As much as we may want to do something, and as much as that something may be helping others; if we’re doing it out of order, then it’s NOT pleasing to God. For women, there is a fine line between taking care of our homes and ministry work. Our job is to find that balance, using the wisdom of God. It can be done! You would do well to study the lives of women such as Joyce Meyers, Lisa Bevere and Beth Moore, to name a few.  These ladies have mastered taking care of their homes, and have ministries that God has anointed to bless others(mainly women) across the world. Sometimes, God uses others to steer us back on path. He loves us just that much! He’s not some mean God  trying to take stuff away from us…He just sees the big picture and knows that perhaps your marriage and family may be in jeopardy.  He’s wise that way and He wants to make sure that the assignment He gave us is done exactly the way He wants us to do it! If it’s something He has called you to…believe me, it will still be there when it’s time to pick it back up. I’ll be praying for you sis…hope this helps!

I’ve been married for over 24 years to my husband, a pastor. I’ve worked alongside him in ministry full-time for over 17 years. During that time, we've pioneered two ministries and I've established a women’s ministry(Women of Excellence). We have three adult children and a son-in-law.  My areas of specialty are family, marriage and women’s issues. Hopefully the (Godly)wisdom I’ve learned through my years of experience will lead you to and keep you on the road to doing you well!  As my husband always says...why spend your life going down a road you don't have to travel, when someone else has already learned the lesson and can show you how to avoid that path.  

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