Mastering YOU Monday...my EUREKA moment(I'm baaack)

Ahhh...this feels good - writing on my blog again! You know it's been 41 days since I put finger to keyboard(concerning this space). 

While I was out, it dawned on me the last time I punched someone’s time card was when I was 4 months pregnant(18 years ago) with our youngest child. There's a reason for that - deep down inside I
know I was never made to work for someone else or something else for that matter. It’s not in my blood or makeup.  My father has owned his own business (which he inherited from his father) since the day I came into this world 46 years ago.  My husband comes from the same background…generations of entrepreneurs. Stick with me, I'm going somewhere with this! I said all of that as a segue to what I really learned while I was on my blogging break.

I must admit, I haven’t visited this place since I signed off a little over a month ago. I won't lie...it felt good! I missed everyone -  but I didn’t miss blogging per say(well, at least everything that comes along with it). I didn’t miss freaking out when I couldn’t make my deadline(because I had writers block). I didn’t miss making sure I joined every blog hop in the bloggersphere to get new followers(who more than likely won’t ever come back). Well actually I stopped doing that months ago (I wanted to add it here to make my statement more profound) – we bloggers do that you know. Lol! Neither did I miss constantly checking my Google analytics, finding the latest SEO tricks of the trade, trying to get high page ranks, etc., etc. Lord knows that’s a job in itself and ain’t nobody got time for that…well at least not me! And for those of you who do it, do know I’m not knocking you. Do ya thing! More power to you! But for me, I realized that blogging was not my side hustle and probably will never be. I’ll be 46 years old next month. Why on earth would I become a slave to a blog? I mean really? I started to loathe it just like an employee would an employer who’s asking for more than they’re willing to give and not willing to compensate them for. Yep, I had gotten there y’all…hating MY BLOG! But how? This was my baby, the thing I started from scratch…from the ground up - that has my fingerprint and DNA all over it…and I hated it! Man, something had to change and change quickly! 

You see, while I was out, I went back to my purpose for blogging in the first place – to give advice to those who wanted it and to love on and encourage those who needed it. That’s it. Nothing more…nothing less. This blog is my ministry. Something my husband and I have been doing full time for over 18 years now. And something we see ourselves doing until the Lord calls us Home. That my friends, is where my joy lies! Helping, encouraging, loving on and being a blessing to anyone who wants it. Yep, that’s MY happy! And when it’s time for me to hang my hat up on this blogging thing…I’ll know it and I’ll do it. Until then, this is a place where all my friends can come to and know what you’re going to get. No pretense and no “you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours”. Nope, none of that here. Just a genuine desire to be a blessing and to make a God connection with those I may never see in person, but have grown to love and appreciate nonetheless. 

Yeah, I might have missed out on all the giveaways, opportunities to gain more followers and grow my social media base, but you know…it really doesn’t matter. Life is so good to me right now and I've got so much on my plate to even care! Sure, I may do some giveaways, grow my social media following and heck even join a few blog hops here and there - however, it won’t be because I HAVE to…it’ll be because I WANT to! And when it's time for me to take another break(which may be once a month now, lol) then I will. And if my FB fan page stays at 910(give or take), that’s fine too. If it surpasses the 1000 mark, hey I’ll take that also!! Don't get me wrong, I am sooo appreciative of the growth of my blog, considering the effort -or lack thereof- I've put into it. For that my wonderful friends, I owe YOU a BIG thank you! Who knows, “Prowess and Pearls” could one day become a household name(hey, whatcha laughin’ at…it could happen you know)!! But, I’m not going to jump through hoops and pull teeth to get there. People will follow me and come visit me because they want to and they genuinely like me and like what I have to say. And that my friends, makes this blogging thing a breeze, makes it easy as breathing air… 

And I'll do it at my own pace, because this space here...is the vision God gave me!

The Pulliam household has been doing this thing called "life", BIG these past few months. A few years back, I couldn't have imagined having this much fun, as I dreaded this upcoming season in my life(my second half of living). Having spent my entire adulthood raising babies, taking care of my family and working in ministry full-time, I had a hard time seeing exactly what my future held once the kids were grown and my responsibilities as "household manager", slowly declined. I can truly say though, that my husband and I are having more fun NOW living than we've had our entire lives! No slight to our kids, because I LOVED my season of raising and nurturing them! But now they are embarking on doing what their dad and I did what seemed liked eons ago - carving their own futures, mapping out their lives and starting their own families. And that is all a mother wants for her babies(well, aside from being happy and healthy and safe from hurt, harm and danger) to name a few! :-) I guess the older you get, the more wisdom you acquire. With that acquired wisdom comes the acceptance and appreciation of the life that's been handed to us. With that acceptance and appreciation comes the ability to make of it more than what you'd ever imagine!

So I encourage ALL of you my friends…go back to the vision God gave you for your blog, your first love of why you started blogging in the first place. Because you love to write, because you love sharing and because you love giving advice to make someone’s life better. If you follow everyone else's lead and not your own...then how unique are you? If you find yourself in the corner pulling your hair out and fretting over this blogging thing...you may want to re-evaluate why you got into it in the first place. This goes for anything in your life!  I admonish you to do what you love, but most importantly…love what you do! If you’re not experiencing either of the two…go back to the drawing board and recreate the plan! Love you  and I’m so glad to back!

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