"Michell's Weekly Pearl"...(Should I Say Something)



an advice column a question about co workers


Hi everyone! Welcome to another edition of  "Michell's Weekly Pearl", where I seek Godly wisdom to offer encouragement. If this is your first time visiting, let me tell you a little about my advice series. This is where you can ask me anything(within reason) on marriage, women's issues, family matters, relationships, parenting, homemaking, or life in general. If you want an honest, biblically based, to the point answer; email me your questions via prowessandpearls@gmail.com (please put "MWP" in the subject area). I'll post your question, along with my answer, anonymously. Easy as that! To read all the questions and answers in this series, you can do so (HERE). 

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Good Afternoon Michelle,


My question is this. I love my job, but I have a problem. It’s one of my co-workers. She is constantly stealing items from the company that we work at. It started off with small items every week, but now she does it on an everyday basis. It really makes me feel uncomfortable, because she does it in front of everyone when our manager/owner isn’t around. It is a small family-owned business. I can tell it makes my co-workers uncomfortable too, but no one has said anything. Being a Christian, I feel really bad about withholding this from my boss, because we work for a great company. Should I say something or should I just keep my mouth shut?


Good Afternoon,


Thanks for your question. This is a very sticky situation that should be handled with discretion. With this crazy thing going around about not snitching, people are overlooking and dismissing behavior that should not be tolerated. This really annoys me. The uncomfortable feeling you’re having whenever you see this is more than likely the Holy Spirit, as I’m sure He’s not pleased with what He sees.  As Believers we should set the standard, not that we’re better, but that we KNOW better. You have to look at it this way, if this was your company, wouldn’t you want someone to let you know if an employee was stealing you blind?  You did say you love your job, and I’m assuming you do so because your employers are great people to work for. Who knows, one day you may want your own business. You should sow the seeds of loyalty to your employer so that your harvest will be loyal employees for yourself. Luke 16:12 Listen, you don’t have to go and sit down and have a meeting with them (unless you want to). But, I do suggest that you type a letter and give/mail it to them anonymously, telling them what is going on. Who knows, they may have a surveillance camera in the company and already know what’s happening. Sometimes people want to see how much integrity someone has and are just waiting to see who will say something. Haven’t you seen ABC’s, “What Would You Do?” Lol…hey, it could happen! It’s time that integrity and morality take a stand. The spirit of lawlessness and entitlement has taken over the land. People want what’s not theirs and if you don’t give it to them, they think they have the right to take it! I mean really...who does that? From the looks of it, way too many people! Besides, the Bible tells us that we are to avoid the very appearance of evil. If the owners in any way think that you may somehow be involved, your job could be in jeopardy. Remember, this is your job you’re talking about here. You have NO obligation to anyone who IS NOT giving you a paycheck. Ask God to help you make the best decision on how to handle this situation. Also, pray for your co-worker. She may not realize it now, but I can guarantee you, she really doesn't want to live this way. I’m sure He’ll give you the answer, especially when your heart is to do the right thing. Hope this helps! Have a wonderful weekend!


I’ve been married for over 24 years to my husband, a pastor. I’ve worked alongside him in ministry full-time for over 17 years. During that time, we've pioneered two ministries and I've established a women’s ministry(Women of Excellence). We have three adult children and a son-in-law.  My areas of specialty are family, marriage and women’s issues. Hopefully the (Godly)wisdom I’ve learned through my years of experience will lead you to and keep you on the road to doing you well!  As my husband always says...why spend your life going down a road you don't have to travel, when someone else has already learned the lesson and can show you how to avoid that path.  


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18 comments:

  1. I know you didn't ask me should I say something & Michell's response is all well with me, but I would tell & not anonymously! I don't play about my money & I too love my job. Nobody is going to jeopardize it. Plus, I want it very clear to all employees at ALL times where I stand. Do NOT include me in any way with your antics on my job, my side hustles, just period. Did I mention I don't play about my money..EM..K, lol. Have a good wkd Michell and "should I say something".

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    1. Hey Joi!! Haha you are too funny girl! I know right...keep them at a far distance! In the infamous words of Sweet Brown..."ain't nobody got time for that!" Lol! As always, thanks for stopping by Joi! Have a wonderful evening darlin' and hope you're enjoying your vacation!

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  2. Amen, Michell! I think (just my two cents) that this is about integrity - not just being loyal to the company, but also about being loyal to our standards. Sometimes, God ALLOWS situations such as this to be placed before us just so that we can see if we have the type of integrity that we claim that we do. HE already knows how we will or we won't respond. HE needs us to know for ourselves how we will or we won't respond. My prayers are with the person who had this question - believing that she/he will do what is pleasing to our Lord.

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    1. It really is all about integrity Trinity! And yes, sometimes test are put before us just to see where we stand. I pray also she will not be intimidated by the situation and will make the right decision. Thanks for sharing your thoughts...have a lovely evening!

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  3. Great advice Michell as always my friend!! I totally agree that this person should definitely make it known what is happening... on all accounts, she needs to do what is RIGHT.

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    1. Hey Chris, thanks so much! Agreed, she needs to do what's right! Thanks for chiming in my friend...have a wonderful evening! xoxo

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    1. Aww...thanks Denise. Thank God for His Holy Spirit...for He is my Helper! :-) Have a good one!

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  5. This is my first time reading this series and let me tell you, this is well worth reading.. I would vote for 'anonymously reporting' since identifying yourself and reporting it will unnecessarily might put you in trouble.. just a thought...

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words! I agree...the goal here is to just make it known. Thanks again and thanks for stopping by! Have a great evening!

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  6. Great answer! I cannot understand people who steal...it is just so unethical. I think whether the person speaks up anonymously, or speaks directly to the owner is up to them and may have to do with what is in their comfort zone. But definitely they should speak up!

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    1. Thank you Michelle! I agree...it's so unethical to even THINK you're entitled to something that's NOT yours! Thanks for stopping by...have a lovely evening!

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  7. Amen Michell, loved how you answered this! Have a blessed week, sister! Love you!

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    1. Hey Ash!! Thanks so much...may you have a blessed week also! Love you too! xoxo

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  8. I totally agree with you Michell. One of our employee used to steal toilet paper and paper towel from our office. We suspected that it was going on, but no one spoke up. Eventually we inventoried all the items and was able to pin point when things went missing. We ended up letting that person go. I wished someone had spoken up. It would've showed some loyalty.

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    1. Hey Hope! That use to happen at our church awhile back...IKR! What is it about tp and pt...I guess we ALL need them both at some point during the day, lol! We never found out, though. We had our suspicions, but never found out. They're gone now, but they know who they are! Lol! :-) My thing is this, if they had just come to us and told us they needed it(obviously they did), then more than likely we would have just blessed them with it; seeing as if we are a church and we have the heart of Christ. That's what churches do right...give to the needy. In your case however, you have a BUSINESS...two different entities. So, you must do what you have to do. Thanks so much Hope for chiming in! Have a blessed rest of your week my friend! ;-)

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  9. A very tricky situation here. I believe she sholud tell the management, if she feels threatened in any way maybe she should make it anonymous.

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    1. I agree Ugochi! As long as she gets the point across, no one needs to know it's her. Thanks so much for dropping by my friend...have a lovely rest of your week! ;-)

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